"People are very tender, very sensitive inside. I don't believe age
or experience makes much difference. Inside, event within the most
toughened and callous exteriors, are the tender feelings and emotions of
the heart. That's why in relationships, the little things are the big
As one successful parent said about raising children, "Treat them all
the same by treating them differently," respecting their differences.
"Don't push; be patient; be respectful. People don't have to open up
verbally before you can empathize. You can empathize all the time with
their behavior. You can be discerning, sensitive, and aware and you can
live outside your autobiography when that is needed."
If two people have the same opinion, one is unnecessary. It's not going to
do me any good at all to communicate with someone else who sees the same
thing. I don't want to talk, to communicate, with someone who agrees with
me; I want to communicate with you because you see it differently. I value
that difference. So when I become aware of the difference in our
perceptions, I say, "Good! You see if differently! Help me see what